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If you're in your 30s or 40s, an overwhelming majority of the men you meet are unavailable (62% of Gen Xers are married).
I'm going to give you a few scenarios that you can use to ask a guy out, but in truth, it doesn't matter which you use. The most important thing is that you are confident when you do it. Men love confident women and find them attractive, so as long as you have that going for you, you're golden.
1:18 How to Ask a Guy Out #1. Ask Him Out on a Group Date
He may accept your invitation and, after spending time with you, realize that there's a spark between you.
Either way, you win. And rejection is minimal. Maybe next time you'll have gained the confidence to ask him out one-on-one!
2:12 How to Ask a Guy Out #2. Ask Him for Coffee
How to ask a guy out: start with coffee.
Here's how to ask a guy out while also minimizing the risk of rejection. Coffee is such a safe activity that few people will turn it down if they're available. If he's not into you and he makes a big deal of it (er, I don't like you that way. I'm seeing someone. I'm a celibate monk!) all you have to say is: Jeez. It's just coffee.
2:00 How to Ask a Guy Out #3. Use the "I've Got an Extra Ticket" Trick
Some of these tips for asking a guy out may seem cheesy or like he'll see right through them, but I'm telling you: they work. That includes the ole I have an extra ticket for this cool event. Do you want to go?
He'll be more inclined to say yes to accompanying you to a sporting event, festival, or concert for a band he likes.
Now, keep in mind that if he can't or won't go, you'll be stuck with two tickets, so make sure it's something you want to go to. And have a backup friend who will go if your plan fails.
3:44 How to Ask a Guy Out #4. Leverage Your Mutual Interests
Find common interests to base your date on.
A guy in your friend circle is as into surfing as you are. This is a fantastic opportunity for you to turn that common hobby into a date. The best way to ask a guy out is to do so in such a natural way that he doesn't immediately realize you're asking him on a date.
So I surf every Tuesday at sunrise. I'd love a surf buddy. You in?
Because he's into the activity, you've got a good chance that he'll agree to accompany you. And if he can't make it, he might suggest another day for the same activity.
4:20 How to Ask a Guy Out #5. Buy Him a Drink
Here's another strategy on how to ask a guy out that is traditionally done by the male, but for no good reason.
What if you gave that confident head nod as the object of your affections looks up to see who sent him a Bud Light?
It's not common for women to buy men drinks...which is why this works so well! He'll be so blown away by the gesture that he will immediately walk over and introduce himself. What happens next, my lady friend is up to you.
4:47 How to Ask a Guy Out #6. Have a Friend Talk to Him for You
Here's another scenario if you're in a bar or at a party. Women have been doing this move since junior high, as far as I can tell, but it works.
Have your wing woman go over to the guy you're eyeing and ask if he's single. If he is (and straight), she can point you out.
My girlfriend over there keeps making eyes at you, and I'd like her to stop. Can I tell her you're not interested? (little reverse psychology).
My friend over there wants to invite you to our table for a drink. Coming?
If he's with a table of men, invite them all over. What man would say no to an offer like that?
The feeling when a guy says yes when you ask him out is magical.
You'll feel like you're on top of the world. Like you are the most confident lady in all the land. And you are. So own that. Embrace that feeling — even before you've asked him out — so that confidence is exactly what you give off. Because that's mad appealing.
Share your tips on how to ask a guy out...and your experiences doing so in the comments below!
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