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For over a decade, David Tian, Ph.D., has coached tens of thousands of people from over 87 countries to achieve happiness and success in their dating and love lives.
Once a nerdy, skinny professor of Asian philosophy who couldn’t hold a conversation to save his life, David is now director of Aura Transformation Corp., and a world renowned dating and life coach. Dr. Tian has been featured in international media, including AXN, Cosmopolitan, Psychology Today, as well as co-hosting a radio show on national radio and a weekly dating advice column in a national newspaper in Singapore.
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In episode 42 of Man Up, I’m going to be talking about the biggest mistake guys make when they’re pursuing women.
Masculinity for the Intelligent Man. I am David Tian, Ph.D., and this is: Man Up.
Hey, I’m David Tian, Ph.D. and this is episode 42 of Man Up. And here I am in Seoul, Korea in the hotel suite’s rooftop balcony, pretty cool. So I’m giving some props to the hotel here in Gangnam. And episode 42 question is – I’m going to be answering a whole series of questions I’ve gotten from guys on email, in person, in the Facebook group. This is a common theme, a common problem among all the questions. Here’s the question - any question that asks: How do I get this girl? I’ve gone on a few dates with her or I’ve been texting her or they’ll start off by saying, “I’ve been dating this girl.” So my follow-up question to get more information is always going to be: How far into the relationship are you? Like how many times have you met, how many dates are you in? Almost always, I’d say 93% of the time, the guy says, “Well, we haven’t slept together. We’ve just had dinners together.” Or if he’s just giving me a texting question, “Oh, we’ve just met that one time and we’ve been texting.” Or, “We’ve only been meeting in group settings and we’ve been texting. She hasn’t been replying.”
So it’s basically a guy, hardly knows the girl, really, and is wondering why – like he’s fantasizing about her, obsessing over her and it’s really like, “What do you know about her?” Or a guy will meet a girl in a bar or club and then ask me questions about how to get her. Questions where he’s willing to go way out of his way to pursue her, chase her, whatever. Any question along those lines. Where a guy hardly knows her or when I ask him, “What do you like about her? What is it about her that really appeals to you?” And he only says physical things – she’s really hot or whatever – and he can’t even tell me any non-physical traits or any non-physical qualities of her like what’s her personality like, what’s she into, what are her thoughts and beliefs and feelings about certain things.
I think women would understand it because sometimes if you get a woman to say honestly, they’re going to say, “So and so model, he’s really hot,” or whatever. But I think it’s unusual for women to obsess about guys like that.
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